You Have A Baby…In A Bar…Prego at the Bachelorette Party!

The only “hangover” I had at this Bachelorette Party was my baby belly!

This past weekend I headed down to Wichita for Marisa’s family bridal shower and bachelorette party (see her DERBY THEMED shower here!) I should remind everyone that I am now over 7 months pregnant. Not exactly in peak party condition, but I put on my sequined maternity top and held my own with the other girls. (Next time I am up at 2am, I will likely be cuddling my newborn!) 

Couple things: nothing reminds you that you’re no longer the young, fun sorority girl you once were like being the 28 year old pregnant lady in the bar. One guy actually wished me a Happy Mother’s Day. (Hey thanks, kid! Buy me a shot…of Botox!) But another young gentleman did offer to buy me a cranberry juice. I politely declined on principle, but basically I took it as a sign that I’ve still got it. And don’t think I didn’t text my husband to remind him that I’ve still got it. (He seemed disappointingly unthreatened.) 

The other thing I was reminded of (since I don’t go out to bars much…or at all, really) is how lucky I am to be married and “off the market.” I mean GEEZ. Some of these guys on the dance floor were just so creepy and rude. Anyway the important thing is that Marisa and I will soon be old married ladies together and we can sit around in our yoga pants, drinking white wine, watching Bravo and talking about how cool we were in Tri Delt. Basically, living the dream.

Bestie Bride

Since my sweet, beautiful little cousin Lauren is a Tridelta legacy, I took it upon myself to teach her some classic sorority picture poses, like the surprise face and the arm pop. As you can see, she is a natural.

My adorable nieces


Designated driver reporting for duty

My cousin Allie is pregnant too, expecting a baby girl in August so we were virgin cocktail buddies!

Busting some moves on the dance floor with my cousin and my sister


It was only fitting that I crown her the new “Mrs.” in Kansas!

Saw this on Pinterest and thought it was cute! Note to self: Must make a blinged out chalkboard to use for different parties!


Kentucky Derby Theme Bridal Shower – Details

Kentucky comes to Kansas!


My leopard hat is from Charming Charlie’s. I actually already had it. I use it as a pool hat on vacation because it’s made of cloth instead of straw so it packs easily. 


For Marisa’s bridal shower I attempted to bring a little bit of Kentucky Derby sass and class to my Kansas home. I did a lot of “online research” to get ideas. (“Online research” is what I tell my husband I’m doing whilst surfing Pinterest.) While there were a lot of great Derby-themed party ideas, many of them just didn’t feel very bridal to me so I put my own girly twist on the Derby theme. Here are some of the details…


First thing’s first…you have to start with a great cake. My husband and I are cake people. We are those people at your wedding who are secretly judging the success of the entire event based solely on the quality of the cake. We will talk about your cake in the car on the way home. We attended a wedding once where they served mini fruit pies in lieu of cake and we were outraged. One of my dear friends from college, Karl, actually said to everyone at a party, “If you want to see a piece of cake disappear, put it in front of Emily Jean!!!” The truth hurts sometimes.


Pink Champagne cake from 3 Women and an Oven

You know those really beautiful rhinestone initials you can order for the tops of wedding cakes? I originally envisioned that. While looking for one, I stumbled across this wooden letter at Hobby Lobby which I ended up liking even better and (bonus) it was under $3. I think it lends more of a down home vibe in keeping with the theme.

“W” for the Bride’s new last name

The gin bottle centerpiece was one of my favorite things. I had planned on using one of my nice crystal vases for the dining room table centerpiece, but my husband and sister were on a little martini kick the weekend before so I found myself with this gorgeous empty bottle and put it to good use. I now have it displayed in my kitchen because I love how it turned out.



The Refreshment Station featured Mint Juleps, Bloody Marys, White Wine, Lemonade, and Sweet Tea

The Mint Juleps were a totally new experience for most of us at the party. In fact, I had to have my mom taste the first one I made because she was the only guest who had actually had one before and knew how they were supposed to taste. The ingredient list is actually very short: Sugar, Water, Mint, and Bourbon. We made the simple syrup by boiling three cups of sugar in three cups of water, then put it in a carafe in the refrigerator until the party. I displayed the fresh mint in a mason jar, and my mother loaned me her mortar and pestle so I could properly muddle the mint. My husband actually had a stroke of genius and drove over to Sonic to buy a bag of ice. This was a really nice touch and saved me the trouble of running the crushed ice maker on the refrigerator every time someone wanted a julep (which was often.)

The Sonic Ice along with the pestle and mortar really made the juleps a success!

If my mother had hosted the party, EVERYTHING would be made from scratch. That’s just how she rolls. She has actually won prizes in baking contests before. This is what gave me the idea for my Award-winning Pecan Pie. The recipe is very simple. You buy a pecan pie from the grocery store and place a blue ribbon on it.


Blue Ribbons are surprisingly hard to find (for those of us who have never actually won one.) I finally found one at a teacher supply store called Mardel

I always like to include a framed invitation as part of the decor

The horse statue was another Hobby Lobby find. It originally came on a stand, but when I got home and took it out of the bag, I discovered it had completely broken off the base. Some people might blame the horse’s tiny ankles, or the infamous quality control standards of Chinese imports, but I had to wonder how this thing made it all the way from a factory in China to a shelf in Kansas completely intact and I managed to break it within ten minutes of ownership. Sigh…


So I improvised and put it in one of my apothecary jars that I always keep in my dining room. (I change the contents based on season or party theme.)

The valance was a Pinterest suggestion. It’s just a plastic table cloth and some tulle bows. Easy peasy!

I did actually win this trophy.

I found these napkins on clearance at Party City and thought they were so cute I bought all the packages they had left! You could do a whole diamond ring theme party around these napkins. Who’s getting married next?  I will throw you a shower. These napkins are burning a hole in my pantry.



Framed invite and horse shoe

Hand drawn banner

So usually I find shower games kind of boring or awkward, but I think they can be a good ice breaker if done properly. I would highly recommend this activity, especially if you need a game that is appropriate for all ages, but not lame like a word scramble or ridiculous like anything involving toilet paper (apologies if I just offended you. Again, the truth hurts sometimes.) Guests wrote either advice or vow suggestions for the Bride and Groom. We had everything from advice to “argue naked” to rap song vows and inside jokes that provided both laughter and an opportunity for the bride to tell stories about how they got engaged or other funny memories, etc. Hilarity ensues.

So those are the Derby details! Feel free to leave any questions in the comment space.


My Best Friend’s Wedding (Shower) – Kentucky Derby Theme

“What I mean, when I say annoyingly perfect, is that there is nothing annoying about her perfection. It’s vulnerable and endearing… and that is annoying as sh…” 

– My Best Friend’s Wedding

The Bride!

So the time has finally come. I am going to be Maid of Honor in my best friend’s wedding. I have been preparing for this role ever since she asked me in 1992. She was 6 and I was 8. The bride, Marisa, is not only my best friend since childhood, my Tri Delta sister, and my daughter’s Godmother; through a somewhat complicated family tree she is also technically my step-Aunt. And she is perfect. 

When her father (my mom’s step Dad) was dying of cancer, she spent her college weekends driving hours home and back to help care for him. This inspired her to get her nursing degree so she could take care of other people who were facing dark times. Through all of that stress she never put the focus on herself, always others. She endured unimaginable grief at a very young age and used the energy to help make the world a better place through her nursing career. 

She’s also fun. A few things about her…see that mega-watt smile? I have actually seen her open a beer bottle with those pretty white teeth. I have seen her throw that same beer bottle so far and so high that it hit a billboard. Seriously. She is the only girl I know who never drinks diet pop, only regular. She loves dogs and children. She also loves burritos and tequila. She knows sports and movie quotes. She can bowl, dance, and shoot pool. She has a hilariously inappropriate sense of humor. She’s a tom boy who grew up to be a sorority girl and she is one of those rare women who can pull off both classy and crude. She’s basically like a real life Sandra Bullock character. I ask you, what man would not want to marry this girl?!

Marisa as Maid of Honor on my Wedding Day in 2009

Marisa holding Avery for the first time in the delivery room

So obviously I was thrilled to have the opportunity to throw Marisa a bridal shower and I wanted it to be perfect, just like her. I came up with the idea of the Kentucky Derby theme because she is having her wedding reception at a gorgeous ranch. People really had fun with the costumes. The Groom’s grandmother (we all just call her “Granny”) came dressed as the Kentucky Colonel and his aunts came dressed as Jockeys. We had all different colors and sizes of polka dots (a popular choice) and an assortment of custom hat embellishments including bows, flowers, feathers, and photos. One of the great things about everyone wearing big hats is that I didn’t feel at all pretentious serving mint juleps and greeting everyone with Beverly-Hills-style air kisses. I will post a separate blog entry with the food and decor details, but here are some of the fun Party Pics:

Just the 3 of us

In the words of Lisa Vanderpump, Life isn’t all diamonds and rosé, but it should be!” 


Marisa cutting her Pink Champagne cake

This was my favorite hat of the day!

Ladies in hats

My mom stuck a jaunty photo of  her horse Travis in the brim of her chapeau

 Unfortunately, Avery could not attend the shower due to a previous nap commitment that she couldn’t get out of, but she did make time to pose for a picture in her fancy horsey shirt with the Bride!

Doesn’t Marisa look GREAT with a baby?!

So here’s to the future Mr. and Mrs. Charlie and Marisa Whitfield and all the wedding festivities to come! June is right around the corner!